Sunday, November 9, 2008

Once Upon a Time...

I was brought up believing in true love. Likewise, I was raised on fairytales and stories of Prince Charming and Happily Ever After. I was taught that having sex with someone was a special act. I was told it meant something, and it shouldn't ever be an activity you take part in just to pass the time or have fun. It's supposed to be a gift you share with the one person you've given your heart to.

Fast forwad twenty years and those ideas and ideals have resulted in a hopeless romantic. I am by no means a prude, and I certainly have a love for lip locking, but my sexual endeavors don't extend far beyond that. It isn't that I'm not desired and I haven't had the opportunity to go...well...all the way around the baseball field a few times...it's just that I've never wanted to wrap my heart up in a box and a bow and give it to any of the fellas who've clearly been interested in such an activity. Blame it on my outrageously high expectations (I mean, come on, Prince Charming??), or the way i've been taught to look at sex and love, but it just hasn't happened.

I used to be okay with this. When most guys found out that I still had my V-card, they'd either be astounded and think it was great and I was some kind of rare gem, or tell me I was lying (although I should hope I'd know if I lost it...). Well, lately, I'm not feeling that way quite so much.

I bought a "true love waits" ring a few weeks ago to wear on my left hand...not for any religious reasons, just as a reminder to hold fast to the things I have always been taught and believed. Which to me, doesn't even mean until marriage...just until love...

But honestly, I've been contemplating turning the ring upside down so it becomes a simple, plain silver band - or taking it off all together (no pun intended). I'm starting to consider a more Carrie Bradshaw point-of-view via "Sex and The City."



So this - is my virtuous dilemma. We'll see where tomorrow brings me.


XOXO

6 comments:

J-moose said...

I've had the oppurtunity as well, but I choose not to. Somedays I regret it, but really, i'd rather wait. I'd rather do it with someone I love, than do it with someone I thought I loved. Trust me, your not the only one with your v-card.

Lotus from Asia.... said...

Wow! interesting confession. V-card shld start a CLUB and u will know how many more are around.

You know, I was taught that there is a different between a girl and a boy. Girls think with their hearts - boys thinks below the belts.

Cheers...and someone from Asia! Come and see me...and my random postings of all kind of everything that reminds me of you.

www.bigheaddolly.blogspot.com

sinfullyanon said...

Carrie B is a fine example of the thoughtful, level-headed, one; the one who stands beside those who "do it," while being the true "participant observer." I'd say, "Mr. Big," is the one fish she'd always set her mind upon; however, life~~real life~~isn't exactly like this.

Exprience, in life & love~~whether you're a "V" (or not a "V")~~matters mostly when we can see where we've been with eyes in the mirror...

...It is the lessons we learn about ourselves which ultimately bring us face-to-face with a true beloved.

Enjoy the Journey & smile.

~x~SinfullyAnon.

Argentum Vulgaris said...

I think that virginity is grossly overated. I make that statement as a male from the opinions of various partners (not all of whom I have had sex with). It's true girls think with their hearts and boys think of their bellies and what hangs below. God designed us, don't blame me. You could spend all your life waiting for Mr Right, where it may have been more appropriate to take Mr Right Away. It's a personal choice based on what you were taught as a kid. I have never met a girl who has regreted not having this "treasured" v-card.

As sinfullyanon says "Enjoy the journey & smile"

AV
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kold_kadavr_ flatliner said...

Yet, how is THAT gonna gitcha
into Seventh-Heaven besides
being whorizontally sinFULL???
Only 2 realms after our
lifelong demise, sunshine...
and 1 of em aint too cool.

Seriously, child,
you best re-think
your lifetime, earthling,
and follow us as Jesus sed
to Saint Andrew and his brother.
Didjew go to mass today?
...or stay at your parents house
doing the 'five-finger-handjob'??

Mortal sin which we're quite
adept at, distorts and annihilates
the perfection of our immortal
soul; it sets-up obstacles to our
salvation which if not removed,
or at least greatly diminished
by the time of death,
may cast a human being
into the Abyss o'Misery.

Thus, I'd suggest you do 2 things:
1. drop your lemming-like-life
which is dead anyway,
falling-offa-the-cliff
like Jimmy Hoffa ...and
2. lead with your cranium
to the Paradise which is ours!
...yet, few find the
Larger-Than-Life
Seventh-Heaven
stretching4infinity.

Thus, find-out what RCIA
means and join, dood:
i DO NOT wanna see
you go to Hell...
yet, you may do so anyway
precisely cuzza your own
'laissez-faireness'.

No, Pacman, eating-U.S.-up,
you got it confused:
Jesus doesn't ever condemn;
YOU YOURSELF do by your indifference.

trustNjesus, earthling.
ALWAYS. ALWAYS. ALWAYS.
Then, we can rise-up to
greater heights forever N ever...
surpassing our flimsy atmosphere.
God bless your indelible soul.

ONE CHOICE ends in eternal death.
ONE CHOICE ends in resurrection.
Pick one.

kold_kadavr_ flatliner said...

Yet, how is THAT gonna gitcha
into Seventh-Heaven besides
being whorizontally sinFULL???
Only 2 realms after our
lifelong demise, sunshine...
and 1 of em aint too cool.

Seriously, child,
you best re-think
your lifetime, earthling,
and follow us as Jesus sed
to Saint Andrew and his brother.
Didjew go to mass today?
...or stay at your parents house
doing the 'five-finger-handjob'??

Mortal sin which we're quite
adept at, distorts and annihilates
the perfection of our immortal
soul; it sets-up obstacles to our
salvation which if not removed,
or at least greatly diminished
by the time of death,
may cast a human being
into the Abyss o'Misery.

Thus, I'd suggest you do 2 things:
1. drop your lemming-like-life
which is dead anyway,
falling-offa-the-cliff
like Jimmy Hoffa ...and
2. lead with your cranium
to the Paradise which is ours!
...yet, few find the
Larger-Than-Life
Seventh-Heaven
stretching4infinity.

Thus, find-out what RCIA
means and join, dood:
i DO NOT wanna see
you go to Hell...
yet, you may do so anyway
precisely cuzza your own
'laissez-faireness'.

No, Pacman, eating-U.S.-up,
you got it confused:
Jesus doesn't ever condemn;
YOU YOURSELF do by your indifference.

trustNjesus, earthling.
ALWAYS. ALWAYS. ALWAYS.
Then, we can rise-up to
greater heights forever N ever...
surpassing our flimsy atmosphere.
God bless your indelible soul.

ONE CHOICE ends in eternal death.
ONE CHOICE ends in resurrection.
Pick one.